How to Relax in Front of the Camera on Your Wedding Day
Camera shy? You’re not alone. Even the most confident people can feel a bit stiff or awkward when there’s a lens pointing at them. And let’s be honest—your wedding day is already a rollercoaster of emotions. The last thing you want is to feel uncomfortable in your photos.
As a wedding photographer in New Zealand, I’ve worked with hundreds of couples who’ve said, “We’re not photogenic,” or “We’re awkward in front of the camera.” Here’s the secret: It’s not about being a model—it’s about feeling comfortable, staying present, and trusting the process.
If you’re getting married soon and want your wedding photos to be as natural, candid, and beautiful as your love story, here are my tried-and-true tips to help you relax and enjoy every moment in front of the camera.
1. Choose a Photographer You Connect With
This one’s huge. Your photographer will be with you more than almost anyone else on your wedding day. If you don’t click with them (pun intended), it’s going to show in your photos.
Make time to meet your photographer before the big day—whether that’s over coffee, a Zoom chat, or an engagement shoot. When you feel like you’re hanging out with a mate instead of posing for a stranger, everything becomes easier.
2. Consider an Engagement Session
An engagement shoot is the perfect way to break the ice. It’s a low-pressure environment where you can get used to being photographed—and get a feel for how your photographer works.
Couples often tell me that the engagement shoot made them feel so much more confident on the wedding day. Plus, you’ll get some lovely photos to use on your wedding website or invites.
3. Focus on Each Other, Not the Camera
The best photos don’t come from stiff poses—they come from real moments. Whether you’re exchanging cheeky jokes or stealing a quiet kiss, those in-between moments are where the magic happens.
Forget the camera is even there. Laugh, chat, hold hands—just be yourselves. I’ll guide you gently when needed, but the more you focus on each other, the more natural and relaxed your photos will look.
4. Trust the Process
You don’t need to know how to pose or where to put your hands. That’s my job. I’ll give you easy directions and prompts that feel natural and fun—nothing forced or cheesy.
Trust that I’ve got your best angles and the light covered. All you need to do is show up, be in love, and enjoy the moment.
5. Schedule Time to Breathe
Weddings can be go-go-go, but it’s important to carve out little moments of calm. That could be during your couple portraits, a quiet five minutes before the ceremony, or a sunset walk just the two of you.
These pauses help you ground yourself and reconnect—not just with each other, but with how you’re feeling. That relaxed energy will come through in your photos.
6. Wear What Feels Like You
Yes, your wedding outfit should feel special—but it should also feel comfortable. If you’re constantly adjusting your dress or tugging at your collar, it’s harder to stay present.
Choose something that makes you feel confident and like yourself. When you feel good, it shows.
7. Keep It Light
It’s okay to be a bit silly. Some of the best photos come from a good laugh or an unexpected moment. Don’t be afraid to let your personality shine—whether that’s a wink, a goofy dance, or a spontaneous piggyback ride.
This is your day, your vibe, your story. Let it unfold naturally.
The key to looking relaxed and natural in your wedding photos isn’t about knowing how to pose—it’s about feeling at ease, being present, and trusting the person behind the camera. Whether you’re celebrating in the heart of Auckland, on the shores of Lake Wanaka, or in a rustic vineyard in Marlborough, these simple tips can help you enjoy every snap, every smile, and every memory as it happens.
